Was thinking about this and then I saw DC's post.
Was a little upset earlier this week with someone. Hurt, by what I thought as lack of trust. That lead to some resentment. After all the trouble I took, they still can't trust. Felt used.
Resolved to keep away for a while.
Resentment, hurt, anger, irritation, feeling that seem to merge one into the other, were running around my system. Was trying to pin the exact emotions down but it was difficult.
Turned to music, even blogged about music; it helped, but did not draw all the sting.
Never was someone who could remain angry for long, so emotions began to die down a bit after a day. I then decided, to look at the bigger picture. This was only a small matter in the much larger universe. In anycase how deep was this relationship? Why not just sit back, enjoy the company and figure out the issues later?
After all it may have been just a misunderstanding, they did'nt really mean anything
Once one gets on this mode of rationalising and explaining away the problem, the emotions disappear pretty fast. After a while one wonders why anger even arose in the first place.
I have found that if one thinks positively, does not dwell on the issue and above all do not try to investigate further to verify facts, things will ease.
If one tries to deal with the problem by thinking of the issue, to try to understand why, to investigate, to dig deeper the anger will grow and eventually consume oneself.
Anger brings distress, unhappiness. Let it go.
There is no point in seeking the truth, better to forget the problem, rationalise it away.
Sticking my head in the sand? Maybe. Not facing the truth? Possibly? Taken for a sucker ? Maybe.
But who cares? Happiness is more important than the truth and anger is the enemy of happiness. If nothing else this attitude probably makes me easier to get on with and maybe, just maybe, it will reduce my chances of spending the after life in hell....