Wednesday, April 28, 2010

The importance of engagement and wedding rings

This year seems a bit of a bad one, my friends are falling like nine-pins. Two wedding and one engagement within the space of 45 days.

These friends, like me, wear no jewellery, except for a watch or cuff links. Therefore the business of wearing an engagement or wedding ring is a new and uncomfortable experience. I, like my friends, always thought that the ring was worn for the wedding or engagement ceremony and thereafter only on special occasions, like someone else's wedding or perhaps a grand party.

Apparently this is not the view of the fairer sex, who seem to insist on the rings being worn constantly. My father never wears his ring in normal daily life and I can't seem to think of anyone else who does either. Women wear jewellery anyway so its perfectly normal for them to wear a ring but is it expected that men should wear their rings as well?

If so, is this a new fashion or something that has been going on for a long time?

12 comments:

pissu perera said...

my dad has always worn his wedding ring as do most married men i know. never realised not wearing it except for special occasions was an option.

that said, if you're not used to it, it can be a pain. i dont usually wear rings but i decided i want one and went and got one. i was so unused to the feeling of having anything on my fingers, the ring is now forgotten in some cupboard.

Delilah said...

i think its actually meant to be worn daily and not just for decoration on special occasions :) but then again depends on the individual. i would never wear a wedding band all the time either. simply because i dont like wearing jewellery.come to think of it neither did my dad although my mom wore hers. but i know plenty of men who never take it off. i think you should wear it only if you really want to and not force yourself out of obligation :)

Graeme said...

I have always worn mine. I quite like it.

The original point was to signal unavailability, although the evidence is that it actually has the opposite effect

Graeme said...

Apparently the evidence

shows no such thing.

Lots of guys wasting there time with fake rings then.

Angel said...

My husband wears his like a talisman... I put my rings (wedding + engagement) on for special occasions and sometimes not even then.

Cadence said...

My dad wears his on special occasions, my mum never takes hers off. Like Delilah says, it's pretty much about whether u really want to wear it or not.

Would I want my husband to wear it someday? I honestly don't know!

rasti said...

My gramps wore his wedding ring until the day he died at 85.

Jack Point said...

Graeme, thanks for those links.

Rasti, thanks for dropping by.

PP, Delilah, Angel, Cadence - glad to hear that some women are flexible. My friends are pretty much under orders to wear theirs.....

Scrumps said...

I think it's it's supposed to be worn after you get married no? Surely the whole point of the ring is so that people know you are married?

I am sure there are women out there who are comfortable with their husbands not wearing their ring. But here - the rings are very simple small bands. I don't think it's too much to ask for your husband to wear his wedding ring.

Jack Point said...

Scrumps- I suppose so... but it is a bit of a nuisance if one is not used it, no?

Serendib_Isle said...

I wear mine all the time; my wife wears them only when leaving home. Most men I know who don't wear their rings do so due to ‘occupational hazards’ (surgeons, chefs et al having to clean hands many times) while some unmarried friends of mine wear rings to attract the opposite sex..! I guess they work as a safety warning. ;)

Jack Point said...

Serendib, it looks like your friends behaviour proves what Graeme says - see the link he has posted with his comment.